I don’t know how many of you are reading books or websites about how to be a pick-up artist (PUA), but more of you need to be. There’s two essays from those sites linked in my sidebar: The Truth About Women and Women Explained.
Not necessarily for the official purpose. Though if you’re so inclined, I say more power to you. As a dyke I’ve experienced how women treat those who love them, and I think anything men can do to level the ground a bit is fair game. They’ll take anything they can get from you, let you lavish them with gifts and fancy dinners, all in the hope of getting some sex, which they probably won’t give you. Most men would like to get married and commit for life, but feminists have made this a reckless proposition with their no-fault divorce and vicious alimony customs. (There is no reason a man should continue supporting a woman who has left him, but as the law stands, that’s the price for a few months of sex.) Women will break your heart just for the rush of power it gives them. I am completely in favor of men strategizing to get some of their own back. If women are going to be faithless sluts, men should take advantage of them.
But there’s other value to PUA writings. I read this stuff and even though I’m a lesbian, I’ve never attempted to use any of this to pick up girls. I’m a Dyke Going My Own Way. I’ve been celibate for several years, ever since the last time I was dumb enough to let a woman get her hands on my heart. I suppose I could learn these techniques to get laid, but then what? I’m not a one-night-stand kind of gal, and these techniques don’t protect you from fickle women who abandon you the instant something shinier comes along. Aside from heartbreak, even though gay marriage still isn’t legal in most places, these days a smart lawyer could probably come up with a way for my ex-girlfriend to take half my shit™. The only bright spot is that I can’t be hit with a paternity suit.
But the practical nature of pick-up means that PUAs can’t bullshit themselves about human nature, particularly female human nature. People who want to fantasize about creating A Better World can afford to kid themselves that when they change “society”, women will turn into independent, hardworking, innovating equals to men. People who live in the dream world of the “positive attitude” can kid themselves that women want men who are equals who will be nice to them and respect them (and that people are basically good and peaceful and nonviolent). But PUAs have to get real-world results. If they don’t get laid, they know their theories are wrong and need adjustment.
Pick-up works because PUAs understand that women want strong, confident, dominant men. It’s pretty funny to see most women’s reactions when they read an article or see a talk show about this. “Oh noes! This is so demeaning! And it wouldn’t work, either! Women aren’t that dumb or superficial!” The hell they’re not.
The qualities I’m about to discuss are biologically based, but they’re not completely inescapable. A patriarchal culture, in which women are guarded by parents, husbands, the law and religion from too much folly; in which women are indoctrinated by religion and fiction that such unnatural qualities as chastity and fidelity are good things; in which people are subject to constant discipline, as never happens in a matriarchy, and hence are trained to fight their base impulses – in such societies, women can overcome a great deal of this. Not all. This is why there are still some decent women among devout churchgoers; despite the dissolution of society as a whole, these women are shielded by the subcultures in which they live. When the Muslims start invading, it is Christian housewives who will prefer to die rather than yield their virtue to the invaders, while the feminists who are currently bragging about how independent and liberated they are will meekly spread their legs for their conquerors, and soon will be talking about how wonderful chadors are.
Not all PUAs are male chauvinists, by the way. It’s hard to be a realist about women without becoming an MCP, but some of them manage it. But they still subscribe to a lot of very unfeminist principles. One of the cardinal rules is, Lead the men and the women will follow. In a mixed group of people, the PUA will focus on winning the men over, getting them to like him or accept him as alpha. The women in the group, hardwired to want the men who have status in the tribe, want to sleep with whichever man the men respect. Women don’t choose their mates themselves, they let all the men around them choose them!
Rob Fedders has recently posted about another of their principles: that of feminine hypergamy. In the absence of legal and social pressures for monogamy and premarital chastity (that is to say, civilization), the natural human social group is the harem. 95% of the women sleep with 5% of the men. (“Now that women are “liberated” (and thus at the mercy of their own emotions and baser instincts) this is mostly no longer possible in today’s society.“) Even a low-ranking, minimally attractive woman can sometimes get an alpha male to sleep with her; men are designed to want lots of sex partners. The PUA relies on this, making sure that he is part of that 5% of men.
In addition, over and over again on the sites and in the books, PUAs remind each other that men must take control of the situation at all times. “Mystery” explains that in addition to taking the responsibility of making the first move, initiating kissing or necking, men also have to take the responsibility of holding back; if a girl impulsively goes further than she’s really ready to, she feels cheap and doesn’t see you again. As long as the man takes responsibility for making the conversation interesting, as long as she doesn’t have to feel responsible when they have sex, she’s fine with it. Women are allergic to responsibility. I know that all of you who have seen feminist editorials defending women who murder their children or husbands can see how this is relevant.
PUAs have a rule: Never call her on her shit. Women subconsciously know that they’re controlled by their emotions and they need men to be able to deal with that. When I read this stuff, I realize just how wrongly I was dealing with my girlfriends and platonic female friends. I made the same mistake Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton, also lesbians, made: I assumed other women were like me. Except for maybe half of my fellow dykes, they’re not. When some dame was tearing my heart to shreds, I used to, if you can believe my stupidity, try to reason with her, to point out that her behavior was illogical and unethical. Naturally, that ruined any chance of reconciliation. Calling a woman on her shit forces her into unpleasant self-awareness and saddles her with responsibility women aren’t designed to handle.
PUAs have a concept they call a “shit test”. Basically it means that when a woman starts to take an interest in a man, she starts giving him shit to see if he’ll past the test of not putting up with it.
I think feminism is just one big shit test. Women as a group decided, “Let’s see how much men will let us get away with!” Unfortunately, the answer was, “A lot.” Every unreasonable demand they make – the vote, default custody, alimony, admission to male colleges, enlistment to the military, sex discrimination lawsuits, abortion – has been handed over. Small wonder they have resorted to proposing such things as a tax on being male and books claiming that “all intercourse is rape” and whining about “the male gaze”. They keep getting more and more ludicrous in the subconscious hope that men will put down their feet.
Unfortunately, once women were allowed to vote, male politicians were only too willing to sacrifice the male prerogatives upon which civilization rests in order to get elected. This is why the naturally dominant sex has been unable to prevent feminism.
Come to think of it, the instinctive verbal attacks women launch whenever they encounter MRA arguments could be seen as another “shit test”. They recite whatever bullshit their professors told them about “the patriarchy” to see if the MRA is just another beta male who’ll crumble on encountering female resistance, or if he’s a real man who can withstand the arguments of a weak and silly woman. They don’t do this consciously, of course. But millions of years of evolution have guaranteed that they do indeed do it.