Recently I made a brief post on a forum, a completely non-ideological, non-political post. I’m sure no one reading this will be surprised that at least two women (before I stopped following it) managed to find something to be offended about. It was basically, When I mentioned that such-and-such trivial event happened to Group A, why oh why didn’t I mention that something similar happens to Group B?
They’ve got such bad “inclusion disease” that they even apply it to the most trivial of contexts, and get mad if it’s left out of those trivial contexts.
I only answered a couple of the comments before ignoring the thread, but I observed the same crap as usual. None of them brought in any real facts, they just emoted. With women, you can’t really expect much else. They genuinely don’t understand the difference between logic and their emotions. A few months ago, I made a political remark somewhere and some bimbo flamed me. She did not bring out any reasons that I was wrong such as “this study shows the bad effect your proposal would have on society” or “that conflicts with the Seventh Amendment” – indeed, I doubt she cared at all about the effect on society at large; her entire argument consisted of the whine that my saying these things she didn’t agree with was wrong because it made her “feel marginalized”. And she demanded that everyone else reading bring her metaphorical smelling salts after she had endured the ordeal of hearing someone advocate things she didn’t agree with. Incredibly, after all this, she declared that she had “won” the argument and “proven” me wrong. She genuinely believed that the degree of emotion she felt constituted a reasoned argument.
Back to the more recent incident. I griped about this mildly to a female friend of mine. I regarded this as one of those minor annoyances of everyday life, to be griped at in the same category as “And I had to wait a long time at the Taco Bell drivethrough, and I misplaced my red pen.” She, however, took it as an opportunity to Explain to me why these dames took umbrage at my trivial internet post. It was because I hadn’t explained beforehand that I was making generalizations (most women on the internet are terrified of generalizations) and assured them that I know that other groups get something similar, bla bla. She was going to lecture me at length about this but I stopped her.
Fact is, I post in a lot of different places on the Net, and I get sick of women expecting me to babysit them this way. This almost never happens with men, just women. Any sane adult understands what generalizations are and doesn’t need to have her hand held while she’s seeing one and given a lollipop afterwards to comfort her from the ordeal. But then, few women are sane adults.
You know, it’s partly because most women aren’t very good at thinking abstractly. This has been well known for some time. I didn’t used to believe it, because my father and my one serious boyfriend before I came out were both very smart, but terrible at abstractions, and I’m great at them. I would make an abstract statement, they would focus on some incredibly trivial concrete detail and follow it to the exclusion of all else. When I tried to remind them of what I was actually talking about, they would look at me blankly and insist that I was completely wrong because said trivial detail was the entirety of the issue and I was talking as if there were something else involved. But years of further observation, and my study of the differences between men and women, prove that this is just one of those statistical anomalies. Men are taller than women. I’m a woman, and I’ve met men shorter than me. This doesn’t change the general fact: men are taller than women. Similarly, my own facility with abstractions is part of what has always made people know there was something odd about me; subsconsciously, they know that is not a normal thing for a female to be good at. It was also one of the causes of the dislike my teachers felt for me; none of them were capable of thinking in abstractions, and no adult likes encountering a nine-year-old who is mentally superior to her (or him). But back to the inappropriate feminine outrage because of a two-sentence, nonpolitical statement a complete stranger made on a web forum followed by perhaps a few dozen people.
There is an old Arab proverb: “The discontented woman asks for toasted snow.”
Women evolved this habit to compensate for being the weaker sex. They are designed to get irritated and emotional at little things because their power to nag, withhold sex, have hysterics, etc. is their only real clout in a relationship. I’ll even go further and say that it’s a good thing they have it. Men usually have better judgment than women, but occasionally a woman will make a better decision than her husband, and this gives her a chance of enforcing it. In addition, it has the very real survival value of testing their man’s devotion to the relationship. A man who will put up with a bit of nagging will probably not run off when they have small children to feed. In addition, she’s hoping he will put his foot down after a certain amount of nagging so that she can be reassured that she has a real man who can defend her from invading Vikings.
However, this habit also means that women as a group are not fit for power in wider society. Turned loose on the world, they will waste everyone’s time and energy by demanding that the simplest statement be hedged about with qualifications and warnings and acknowledgements, bla bla.
The irritating experience reminded me again that arguing with women about such issues as child custody or alimony is not going to do any good. Even comparatively rational women, being presented with all the facts, will nonetheless still not comprehend the injustices which are being done to men. This may be because perceiving this would threaten her own survival, or it may be simply that she has heard so much propaganda in the other direction that reading one web page with the actual facts isn’t going to penetrate. Women are highly dependent on the approval of the group for their survival, so very few of them are able to think for themselves. But most of all, I think that they won’t be convinced unless an argument inspires the needed emotional response. They read our pages now and feel bad, feel criticized, feel attacked; therefore, our arguments are bad. Has nothing to do with facts or logic. When an argument makes them feel good, they figure it must be true and moral. They can’t really help this, but it does mean that it’s the responsibility of men to run society so as to protect them from their own folly.
Don’t waste your time or energy arguing with women. It won’t work. Convince enough men, and at the same time deprive certain men of the benefits of pandering to women (i.e. politicians who give women things in return for votes), and feminism will evaporate.