Objectifying people

Feminists like to criticize people who “objectify” other people, i.e. notice that they’re goodlooking. This non-worry comes up at peculiar times. In an email to a female friend, I referred to a website I’d been looking at and mentioned in passing that the owner was handsome; he’d posted a picture of himself. She demanded the URL, which I supplied. Then she stated that while it was bad to objectify people, he was a hunk.

Why the feminist hostility towards “objectifying” people? Because men and women have different mating strategies. Men look for beauty because the signifiers of beauty also signify health and youth, hence fertility, hence a good bet for reproduction. Women are more interested in more subtle qualities: leadership, intelligence, strength, or whatever they’ve imprinted on as signifying a good provider. They generally look for qualities their fathers displayed, as this gave them their first idea of a provider. This doesn’t make women less shallow than men or better people, it just means that they have a different role in reproduction, which we all knew already.

Women do enjoy looking at handsome men and fantasizing about them, but they’re not nearly as good a bet for actually choosing a mate. Sometimes a woman who’s married to a man with provider qualities will have an affair with a goodlooking (or more dominant) man after she’s provided her husband with a couple of legitimate children. Many allegedly monogamous animals do this as well. It sucks for the husband, but it is good for the gene pool.

So feminists observe that men look for something different in a mate and by feminist logic conclude that what men are looking for is bad and what women are looking for is good. It’s self-serving baloney, as usual.

By the way, homosexuals of both sexes usually follow their sex’s usual mating strategy. This is why gay men are so concerned with their own appearance (even more so than straight women, studies show) and look for goodlooking partners, while lesbians generally “dress down” and let themselves get out of shape and brag about the nonvisual qualities that they find attractive. I personally follow the male strategy; I’m attracted to young, beautiful women. What can I say, I’m a male chauvinist.

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3 Responses to “Objectifying people”

  1. paddybrown Says:

    Feminists use the term “objectification” to pretend that behaviour that is innate and instinctive – finding a member of the opposite sex attractive – is conscious, deliberate and malicious. That way any man who buys into feminism is in a constant state of guilt, and a person who feels guilty is very easy to manipulate.

    Feminism is the manipulative wives’ trade union. In the old days a woman who wanted to dominate her husband by making him feel he was always in the wrong and needed to make it up to her had to do it on an individual basis. Feminism does it collectively.

    And like many other feminist notions, the idea that men “objectify” women is projection. It’s not at all unusual for a woman to select a mate entirely on what he can do for her, and refuse to recognise that he has feelings or needs. Any woman who treats a man as a means to an end, whether it’s to have a comfortable lifestyle at his expense, or to have a baby by him, making him obligated to her for life whether or not she divorces him, is treating him as an object.

  2. paddybrown Says:

    Feminists use the term “objectification” to pretend that behaviour that is innate and instinctive – finding a member of the opposite sex attractive – is conscious, deliberate and malicious. That way any man who buys into feminism is in a constant state of guilt, and a person who feels guilty is very easy to manipulate.

    Feminism is the manipulative wives’ trade union. In the old days a woman who wanted to dominate her husband by making him feel he was always in the wrong and needed to make it up to her had to do it on an individual basis. Feminism does it collectively.

    And like many other feminist notions, the idea that men “objectify” women is projection. It’s not at all unusual for a woman to select a mate entirely on what he can do for her, and refuse to recognise that he has feelings or needs. Any woman who treats a man as a means to an end, whether it’s to have a comfortable lifestyle at his expense, or to have a baby by him, making him obligated to her for life whether or not she divorces him, is treating him as an object.

  3. paddybrown Says:

    Feminists use the term “objectification” to pretend that behaviour that is innate and instinctive – finding a member of the opposite sex attractive – is conscious, deliberate and malicious. That way any man who buys into feminism is in a constant state of guilt, and a person who feels guilty is very easy to manipulate.

    Feminism is the manipulative wives’ trade union. In the old days a woman who wanted to dominate her husband by making him feel he was always in the wrong and needed to make it up to her had to do it on an individual basis. Feminism does it collectively.

    And like many other feminist notions, the idea that men “objectify” women is projection. It’s not at all unusual for a woman to select a mate entirely on what he can do for her, and refuse to recognise that he has feelings or needs. Any woman who treats a man as a means to an end, whether it’s to have a comfortable lifestyle at his expense, or to have a baby by him, making him obligated to her for life whether or not she divorces him, is treating him as an object.

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